13 Jan Education Channel 006: Suggestions for Safe Word in BDSM
When choosing a safe word, it’s important to select something that stands out in the context of your scene. In today’s lecture, Freya10 will teach you some examples about how to choose your safe word for your sex life.
1. Traffic Light System
The traffic light system is widely recognized in the BDSM community and offers three levels of communication:
- Green: “Keep going; everything is great.”
- Yellow: “Slow down or adjust; I’m nearing my limit.”
- Red: “Stop immediately.”
This system is simple, intuitive, and provides nuanced feedback without interrupting the flow of the scene entirely.
2. Unique Words
Choose a word that wouldn’t naturally come up in your scene. For example:
- Pineapple
- Banana
- Unicorn
- Octopus
The key is to pick something memorable, yet unrelated to the role-play or activities taking place.
3. Humorous or Random Words
Sometimes, humor can help lighten the mood and make the word easier to remember. Examples include:
- Jellybean
- Platypus
- Spaghetti
- Bubblewrap
These lighthearted choices can add an element of fun to the negotiation process without diminishing the importance of the safe word itself.
4. Foreign Language Words
A word in another language can also work, as long as all participants are familiar with its meaning. For example:
- Sakura (Japanese for cherry blossom)
- Alto (Spanish for “stop”)
- Blume (German for flower)
5. Non-Verbal Safe Words
Sometimes, a scene involves activities like gagging or sensory deprivation, where verbal communication isn’t possible. In these cases, non-verbal signals are crucial. Examples include:
- Dropping an object (like a ball or scarf).
- Snapping fingers or clapping hands.
- Using a specific hand gesture.
Make sure everyone understands and practices these signals beforehand.
Further Ariticles
Education Channel 005: How to Bring Up Your Sexual Partner’s Interest In Sex Life?
Education Channel 003: Ways to Incorporate Chokers into Intimacy
https://www.freya10.com/education-channel-003-ways-to-incorporate-chokers-into-intimacy/
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